i've been dating again recently... this year. not much but enough. patience is a virtue.
that's the one thing i look for in a date.
i don't know if it's senility (ha ha ha) or bad memory but it used to be that a guy understood that things didn't have to go a zillion miles an hour.
i think maybe it's the men i'm dating. all extremely good looking (smart of course.... politically sentient and must not be a homophobe), i guess they are used to getting their way in a second.
for me it's about respect. i have to know that a person respects me first. that's all. it's hard to get to know someone in five seconds so i take it slow. i have the time.